"All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us." —J. R. R. Tolkien

Thursday, May 03, 2007

Life Tip of the Week - Be Happy for Others

Really. Be happy for others. Wish others well.
In my view, to be happy in our own lives, we have to truly wish others the best. This is a hard thing to do for many reasons - all stemming from various negative emotions floating around in our minds.
Jealously - If you find yourself jealous of someone (maybe their book sold more copies than yours even though your is 20 times better), stop and think about it. Confront your jealous feelings and negate them with positive thoughts. Tell yourself that you are truly happy for the other person's success. Even though at first you might feel like you're just saying something, it makes you think, and pretty soon you may actually believe it.
Anger - If you find yourself angry with someone (maybe they cut you off while driving), stop and confront your anger feelings. Wish that person well. Maybe they're having a really bad day. Wish them a better day. Be happy you're not having such a bad day. Once again, you may not "feel" this benevolent at first, but thinking about it will work on making it genuine.
Resentment - If someone has done you a wrong in the past, wish them well. And I mean REALLY wish them well. None of this "I don't have any negative feelings against so-and-so. I wish them the best. I just never want to see, speak, or hear about them again." This sounds like it needs a little work. :)
We live in such a competitive world, that sometimes it goes against everything we may have been taught our entire lives to with others the best. But working on wishing others well will make you a happier person and the world a happier place.

1 comment:

HipWriterMama said...

Couldn't have said this better myself. Thanks for a great reminder.